Surviving is all my life has been

30 DAYS OF FEELING - DAY 15 Mental health is vague, or at least the whole process of trying to heal from trauma with the help of a psychologist seems ambiguous to me. There are books describing steps and techniques but because it's about something so personal there is really not one way that is …

There is No Escape, No Reason, No End – Continuity of Mild Abuse Causing Major Trauma

When we usually think about abuse, we think about the big things. A stepfather that can not keep his hands to himself, a mother covered in bruises, a skinny child in dirty clothes, bones that break too often, blood stained underwear, a black eye... Real trauma-causing abuse is often considered sexual or physical, big and …

The Effect Of A Mother’s High Standards (Read: standards that will just always be too high for you)

Illustration by Barbara Jenjaroentham - @barbsiegraphy I got through the previous decade of my life because I was the best. I have been the best student to my professor, the best grandchild to my grandparents, the best neighbour to the people that have lived close to me, the best costumer to my gym, the best …

You Don’t But Your Parents!

I recently started schema therapy, also called lifetrap therapy. This kind of therapy believes that the problems we encounter in our adult life, often originate in our childhood, in the early connection or relationship with our parents. The way our parents choose to connect with us, is what we get familiar with, it's what we …